Introduction: The Workplace Is Where Mettā Gets Difficult — and Useful You can choose your friends. Family you’re born into, but there’s usually love as the foundation. Colleagues are neither. They are people assigned to share a goal with you…
Introduction: Why Trying to Forgive Often Makes It Worse I should just let it go. I can’t keep holding onto this. If you’ve directed these words at yourself, you know what tends to follow: not release, but a second layer…
Introduction: The Intensity of the Reaction Is Not About Them Just thinking about that person tightens something in the chest. Being in the same room is draining. Every time they speak in a meeting, something catches. Explaining this as they’re…
Introduction: Being Alone and Feeling Lonely Are Two Different Experiences A quiet room on a weekend afternoon. An evening with nothing scheduled. The same situation can feel like spacious stillness on one occasion and like uncomfortable emptiness on another. The…
Introduction: Functioning and Not Depleted Are Two Different Things The day is finished, and something is heavy. Things were accomplished, but what’s present is fatigue rather than satisfaction. Or there is no clear sense of being tired at all —…
Introduction: The Brain Doesn’t Entirely Know Whose Hand It Is The particular settling that happens when someone puts a hand on your shoulder. That experience is produced by the contact itself. A gentle pressure on the skin is processed as…
Introduction: You Can’t Stop the Comparison. You Can Change Where It Lands Someone’s post appears on the screen, and something shifts — a subtle contraction, a sense of being slightly less than a moment ago. A colleague’s performance is mentioned…
Introduction: What the Brain Does the Moment Something Goes Wrong An important presentation, and the words stop coming. A careless mistake, noticed too late. Something said that shouldn’t have been. And then, immediately, the voice: again. why can’t you just…
Introduction: They Feel Like the Same Thing. They Aren’t May this person be happy. And: May this person’s suffering ease. Both feel like warmth directed toward another person. Both look like care. But if you pay close attention while doing…